The Halo Effect
Studies have shown that attractive people achieve more in life, are generally happier, and have more self-confidence.
Quick Personal Story
About 2 years ago, I was dating this really good looking, smart guy and I really liked him. And I let him treat me… not so nice. On July 4th, after not returning multiple phone calls, I was out with my friends downtown, when we ran into each other. Essentially he broke up with me on a pole outside of Dillon’s (a bar). With glitter on his face. Probably from making out with some girl. His response: “I was going to break up with you on Monday.” Devastation.
Fast Forward 9 months. I run into this boy again. This time I have just had my lips done. He kindly bought me drinks all night, and at the end of the night I said thank you, and good bye.
Did he feel bad? Was it because I was hot? Who knows, and who cares. The fact of the matter was, I felt hot. And confident. AND best of all, I felt retribution for the way I was treated by this boy less than a year prior.
The Attractiveness Co-Effecient
Did I treat him better because he was good looking? Probably. Did he treat me better when I was better looking? Definitely. Was there some self-fulfilling prophecy factor involved? Probably. But like I said, I feel justified and that’s what counts. We’re on a semi-friendship level to this day.
Beauty is not always advantageous though. I have many experience where I’ve been perceived as mean, stupid, materialistic (ok this one is kind of true), and vain. I have had people question my expertise and my skills in both medicine and business. It is a difficult experience for me, as I have always excelled academically and am constantly reading and researching topics that inspire me. I can only take these experience and use them to make me better as a person, and in my field of work.
The Hairdresser Effect
If the Halo Effect is the idea that good looking people are treated differently day to day, I would like to introduce my theory of the Hairdresser Effect. When you look good, you feel good, and you reflect this confidence to others. Every woman’s favorite place is the beauty salon. FACT. Why? Because when you leave, you are at the height of feeling attractrive. My hairdresser is the first person I go to when I’m sad (I would like to credit Lauren Cence, of Sylvestre Franc–thank you for making me the best blonde I can be! … and for all the free therapy sessions). I aspire to have this effect on people, to bring physical beauty to aide a person to have the confidence to be themselves. And be HAPPY with who they are.
The bottom line here, beauty matters. It effects how we feel about ourselves and how other treat us. Whether it is self-fulfilling, whether it’s this Halo Effect, whether it’s right or wrong. It doesn’t matter. What matters is how YOU feel about yourself. Striving for physical attractiveness is not a vain endeavor, but an expression of confidence and reflection of inner beauty. Being attractive will lead you into a happier more successful life.